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FRIENDS VS WORKMATES
Posted Sunday, 24 May 2015 // 8:03 pm
 I have wanted to write this post for a very long time already but I kept putting it off. Finally today I decided to look through my drafts and pick out one of my inspirations and start writing. Being 19 years alive, doing project work for at least 10 years, I can safely say I have seen enough to write about this and many of you will agree with me on this. Here goes my two cents' worth. What makes a good friend? Caring, nice, sweet, understanding... the list goes on and on. What makes a good workmate then? Responsible, helpful, proactive, neat, cooperative... Different people define a good friend differently, just like how different people would describe a good workmate differently. No matter who are you as a person, chances are, you would describe a good friend differently from a workmate. Some of you might want the same traits in a friend and in a workmate but majority would write them differently. Especially if you are a perfectionist, you will realise your good friend is totally different from your good workmate. We all want friends of common interest, common sense of humour and are usually in the same frequency. We would do things we like together with our friends, trekking, cafe hopping, watching movies or bake, we would laugh and have fun together. When you're sad and stressed, they bring you your favourite food to cheer up, they will listen to you talk and make you laugh. When you need a little push, your friends are there to encourage and motivate you. That's what friends are for. Workmates. What do workmates do? We get together, come to an agreement on a theme/topic and work on it. Workmates help to lighten your stress and burden, we split out the work evenly and trust that they will do their best, put in 101% effort and finish it on the agreed date before submitting before the deadline. We trust them to produce neat and tidy, high quality work using their abilities and creativity. As one, we are strong, but together we are infinite. Workmates are the ones that help us make our work better. How often your friends are your workmates too? It is very common and you're lucky if your good friend is your good workmate as well. But let's face it, quite a couple of time your good friends are not your good workmates. You can laugh and have fun together, they are the best friends anyone could ever ask for but when it comes to work, they are the kind of people nobody would pick. The traits your good friend possesses are not the traits you look for in your good workmate. It happens. This could also be one reason why friends fall out, it depends on how patient you are and how important that work is to you. What do you do when your perfect friend is your worst workmate? Do you avoid working with them or you tell them straight in the face what you expect of them and let them know you're not pleased with their work and hope they change and improve? If you would avoid working with your friends because they make the worst workmate then I can only say you're a shitty friend and your friendship is not as strong as you think it is. If your friendship is strong and you two are comfortable with each other, you'll be brave enough to tell him/her what a shitty workmate they are and how they can change and improve. If you rather avoid, another reason could be because you're plainly selfish, you want them to still be your friend but you never want them to be better than you. Do not avoid your friend if they don't make a good workmate, teach them and help them improve if you treasure the friendship. Some people do take friendships for granted, they let you do everything for them, thinking it's okay, cause you're their friend and they know you'll pick up their shits for them. Truth is, you're being too nice as a friend. There's a limit when it comes to being nice, you're not doing them any good by letting them take advantage of you. Stand up for yourself, voice out how shitty they are as a friend and workmate; and if they think you are the shitty one, forget them, you deserve better. When it comes to work, I have a limit for friend's benefits. I hate to mix personal feelings with work. Yes, if you're my friend, you do get certain benefits when it comes to work, but they won't make much difference cause I believe in being fair. Work is work; feelings should always stay out of it. In other words, even if I hate you, I will still work with you fairly and hope you do the same because I won't let feelings hinder me in work. Dear friends, please be sensible and change for the better and stop taking your friendships for granted. We are all humans and we do have limits, do not put the friendship on the line. tumblr ENERGY OF LOVE.
Posted Friday, 15 May 2015 // 5:34 pm
The thought of love was distant to me ever since the last
breakup but a recent conversation got me thinking about it. Will you always
love the one you once loved? Or "I love you forever and always" is a
lie because forever and always doesn't exist?
Let's start with my opinion. I believe in being friends with
your ex and when you love someone, you will always love them. You will not stop
loving them. If love disappeared, you never really love them from the start
then. It was most probably just a crush. Though I have been in 2 relationships,
the first one was never really love or anything serious. And I don’t think I
should count that, so there was only one love and that was first love. You know
what they say about first love, you will always love them no matter how long.
There will always be a special place for the people I once loved. Yes, I still
love them but not as much as I used to and no, I would not get back with them.
With that, I can say I’m over my past relationships.
I look at love differently; people speak of love so casually
and give them away so easily like it means nothing to them. How can one just
stop loving someone when they have loved them all this while? No matter how
many years have passed, a part of me will always love my first love and there’ll
always be a place for the love. I don’t love as deeply as before, so where
did the rest of the love go?
Love is a kind of energy,
it does not disappear and it cannot be destroyed. Love transforms. It
transforms into something else. What does it transform into depends on how you
deal with it. The once was love can be transformed into hatred or concern. It
really depends. If it ended on a bad note, it’s hatred. If there’s an
understanding between two parties, love becomes care and concern. The 100% love
turned into 5% love and 95% concern. You will wish them well and hope they stay
safe because you still care and a part of you still love. It is not true that being friends with your ex means you either never really love them from the start or you're still in love with them. Being friends with your ex means both of you are mature enough to come to an understanding and transform the love into care and concern with a tinge of special love.
To my future love, you can stay assured that the 5% will not
increase or decrease and I will always love you more than anything I have ever
loved.
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THE SMOKE THAT KILLS, THE SMOKE I LOVE.
Posted Sunday, 3 May 2015 // 10:50 pm
 I see your presence, light and easy; And I feel your presence, goose bumps down my thighs. Inhaling you was the hardest, suffocating it was. Like a smoke, you blind me; I fell hopelessly, couldn't see where I was going. Thought you were there for me, to catch me when I fall, But every time I reach out for you, you spread around me. Every time I try to hold onto you, you slip away effortlessly. You're the ghost in my head, that's what they said. People wouldn't believe your presence, which lingers around me. Like magic you disappear, leaving not a single trace. Stop messing with my head and stop the mind games. I long to hold you, for as far as I remember seeing you. Let me hold you and tell me I'm not dreaming. You're more than just a smoke, my dear. Tell me you're real and tell me you're mine; Mine to hold and mine to keep. tumblr |
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