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Posted Sunday, 23 November 2014 // 8:55 pm
 Magandang gabi, I have the urge to write today but don't really have a clue on what to write. I do have a few drafts saved but I don't think I'm really to write/ post them yet. This post will be a little different from the usual- filled with different opinions/ point of views. It is more of a review/ recommendation post. I'm sure the title did hint you a little, yes, it's called 7 cups of tea but it has got nothing much to do with teas. 7 cups of tea is a site where people find someone to talk to. I did mention a little about 7 cups of tea previously, this is just more detailed. Do not ask me how I came across this amazing site, it's quite a long story but don't worry, I'm not depressed. Instead of talking to someone, I ended up as a listener. Yup! I listen to people talk about their problems. I know we do have times when we want to talk to someone about something but we can't really tell anyone about it without fearing about their reacting or how they will judge you. At 7 cups of tea, I can promise you, you will remain anonymous while you talk about your problems, you don't have to reveal anything about yourself if you don't want to and we will make you feel welcome and loved. The only reason why I'm sharing it is because I want to continue to make a difference in more people's life. Through so many talks, I'm so glad when they tell me how thankful they are and how much I have helped them. All listeners are trained and certified, so you can expect a certain degree of professionalism. How does it work? Good question. It might sound complicated but I promise you it's real easy. How to talk to a listener? #1 You can talk to the listener as a guest/ member. As a guest, you do not need an account. #2 Go over to 7 cups of tea and click "CONNECT TO A LISTENER NOW" #3 You will be connected to a listener once a listener is available. #4 While waiting for a listener, you can talk to others that are waiting at the waiting chat room as well. #5 Once you are connected to a listener, you can talk about your problems without revealing your identity. #6 Your name is generated based on your computer ID, every time you go back to 7 cups of tea, it'll be the same name. (Pear007, Carli02 etc.) #7 To be a member, all you have to do is sign up. #8 You are able to choose your listener as well. Click "Browse listener" (top left) and choose the listener you want base on reviews, rating or country etc. #9 Once you are done, just......exit. #10 Conversations are deleted, leaving behind only the last 10 messages. This is to help keep track of what you have said. How to be a listener? #1 This is a little tougher but definitely manageable. #2 Go over to 7 cups of tea and click "Become a listener" (top right) #3 You NEED to sign up and go through a series of tests before you're certified. This is to ensure professionalism. #4 As a listener, 7 cups of tea does require to commit but no worries, it's not a very huge pressure. 1-2 hours per week will help a lot. #5 Once you're certified, you can start talking to people that needed someone. #6 Follow up with them if needed. Everything will be taught. (How to respond or react etc) #7 That's pretty much it. You can explore around the site if you're free. For iPhone users, I'm happy to say they do have an app for easy access from your phones. As for Android users, right now we do not have an app available but fret not, we're running tests on the app already. You will have the app option very soon. As for now, you still can access it from mobile web. You don't have to use it to help someone; you can simply help by sharing it with anyone that you think might need it. Overall, I highly recommend it to everyone. If you have issues, you can talk about it here. If you have no issues, you can help by listening. It helps to improve your listening skills kills two birds with one stone. (thumbs up!) I can't really find any downsides but if I have to force out a few, it will be complicated navigation and shortage of listeners. At 7 cups of tea, there are too many tabs that lead to the same screen and it's so confusing at the beginning. (For listeners only. I'm not so sure about guests and members. For guests, it should not be a problem.) Sad to say, sometimes we do have a shortage of listeners. General requests to talk to a listener can go up to 23 and 10 general requests are bad enough already. (23 general requests are based on personal experience. It might have gone higher but I have yet to experience it.) To talk to me, my listener user name is Joyce22. You are very welcome to talk to other listeners as well. :) google // 7 cups of tea HAIR LENGTH.
Posted Thursday, 20 November 2014 // 10:24 pm
 There are a zillion of female hairstyles out there but what appeals to guys? Based on my guy friends' preferences, I would say 90% of them prefer girls with shoulder length hair or longer hair. That is something I couldn't fathom. I did a little research and the main reason gotta be because longer hair covers your less desirable features making you look more appealing. As a vain girl, I do love long hair too. However, I shaved my head for a charity event last year and I'm currently growing it out. My hair barely reaches my shoulder but I think it looks fine on me. I don't really understand why guys like girls with long hair. As for girls, I do understand why we love long hair, we can do so many different updos and every different updo gives a different feel and a different vibe. With long hair, girls have more choices on how they want to look. When you have short hair, there is nothing much you can do with it except to live with it. The perfect length would be mid length hair, they are easy to deal with and at the same time, you get choices. Long hair is always in a way of something, in your food, in your face, it's just......everywhere. When I was young, I would say about 9 years old, boys in my class have crushes on girls with long hair. I wouldn't agree that long hair conceal the less desirable features as we're supposed to braid it away from our faces. The only reason I can think of is, guys like feminine girls. Before you start yelling at me to prove me wrong, I shall rephrase it. MOST guys like feminine girls. When we were young, what do we know about inner beauty? We all talked about appearances and only appearances. Therefore, young boys like young pretty girls. To them, pretty would most probably means girls with long hair. This is true. I once asked my cousin who was only 4, " Is jiejie pretty?" "No, very ugly," she replied. "Why?" "Cause you got short hair, short hair not nice." I wouldn't say I was very affected by it. First of all, my hair was ridiculously short. Secondly, I understand their perception of pretty is very vague. Lastly, I was already mentally prepared. Long hair makes a girl look more feminine, sweet and gentle. Girls with short hair give an edgy and hard to deal with vibe. And because guys like sweet and nice girls, naturally long hair is more appealing to them. This is mainly just my opinion, I am no guy and my answer is not from a guy's point of view. This is merely my thoughts on the opposite sex's preference and if you're offended, I see no need to apologise. We always say inner beauty is more important but can I please say, first impression still matters and it is also very important? Appearance attracts attention, inner beauty keeps the attention. Before the attention gets to explore the inner beauty, we need appearance to attract it first which is not so easy for people who aren't that appealing to the general. Fret not if you doubt you're pretty, I honestly do not think I'm pretty either, make up does the trick. (winks) I'm not deceiving people, I'm just doing them a favour by being more pleasant looking. Always remember, "Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder." Don't feel pressured to have long hair if you do want a pixie cut, pixie cuts are cool and someone will appreciate it. The only reason why this post exists is because I wonder too much and asked too many questions. While growing out hair, the common questions/responds I get are, "Do you intend to grow your hair long?" "Why did you cut short hair? You look great with long hair." "Why do you keep cutting your hair? Why not let it grow?" "You look good in both short hair and long hair, but long hair is nicer." They just make me wonder, what's wrong with short hair? I live to answer all my questions, to seek all opinions and truths. Not all girls can do a short hairstyle. Kudos to all ladies out there rocking their pixie cut! FLAWED LOOKING FOR PERFECTION.
Posted Thursday, 13 November 2014 // 11:22 am
 It has been a great day so far! Blue sky, white fluffy clouds and golden Sun, it's a blessed day in the current raining season. Flawed looking for perfection. What more do I need to say? In this real world, what's perfect? Who's perfect? Nothing is and nobody is. But why do we still look for perfection? We always choose the best despite everything displayed on the shelf is similar, sometimes they are even identical. We pick the pen that look the newest, we like that doll whose smile seems the widest and we buy the neatest shirt despite all of them being the same. I'm sure we are guilty of it. Taking the inner stocks even though they are all the same with the same expiry dates. Why do we do this? First of all, "First in, First out." we want the latest, the newest and the freshest. Secondly, the inner the stocks, the lesser fingerprints are left on it because not many touched it. We, the human race, are constantly looking for perfection. We cannot accept any bends, scratches or any form of defects even though we know 6 months later, we'll totally screw up the thing leaving is full of scratches, full of defects. In my opinion, the biggest issue here is how we choose human. We are flawed but we want others to be perfect. Why did we change? When we were young, we accept anyone and everyone for who they are but when we get older, we start rejecting flawed people. The wiser we are the more we judge, the more we stereotype and the more we discriminate...... I think it's pathetic. We all have flaws and we know it but when we see some traits we dislike in people, we dislike them almost instantly. If our flaws can we accepted by others why can't we accept other people's flaw? Based on amirite , 89% of the people agree that people don't practice what they preach. We talk about equality, we talk about fair treatments, we talk about accepting people just the way they are, we talk......, we talk......, all we did was, we talked about it. Who actually practiced it? Maybe the remaining 11%. Talk is cheap. We are able to think logically but unable to act logically. Our brain says yes but our heart says no. We need people to start practicing what they preach. After all, actions speaks louder than words. I have to admit sometimes I do have issues accepting people the way they are mainly because I'm a perfectionist. But that is rarely. The only time it happened is when it comes to the people I date; I unconsciously have a higher expectation of them. It might seem like a problem but to me, I don't think it is. We can still be friends in a perfectly normal way and someday I will find someone that I love so much that I don't see any flaws in them. It happened once and I believe it will happen again. I no longer know if I make any sense right now. I hope I do. (cross fingers) All in all, accepting flaws and defects is a skill that not many possess. One day if I end up with a puzzle with a missing piece, I'll still frame it up because it shouts, "Nothing is perfect and I'm still beautiful." or "Perfection in imperfection." Please accept everyone the way they are, regardless of race, gender or nationality. Note: If you like to make a difference in someone's life or just need someone to talk to, check out 7 cups of tea I promise you, you will love it and I guarantee it's safe. Join as a listener and make someone's day. I feel so much happy when someone tells me, "Thank you, you made me feel so much better." "Thank you, you just made my day." "I'm so glad I talked to you." You can talk to our listeners anonymously without creating an account too! IN THE WOODS.
Posted Monday, 10 November 2014 // 10:44 pm
 Gibbous moon shyly half hid itself behind the clouds, exposing only half of its beauty. The ground was moist from the evening rain and the air was fresh and crisp. They taste like pure oxygen- it woken all of my nerves making me feel fresh and free. We followed the trails left by the other trekkers, guided by the only light given by the gracious moon. "Are you cold?" he asked. Without uttering a word, I pulled the sleeves of my sweater to cover my hands. Taking that as a cue, he read my mind and held my hands. The moment our hands touched, I can feel my ice cold hand sent a chill down his spine. Taking it as a test, he smiled and held it even tighter translating it into words that say, "I will never let you go." He made me awfully shy; I blushed scarlet and watch my boots sink into the mud in every step I take. I was glowing inside, a kind of warmth that even hot soup cannot give. We sat on a stone bench facing the river with a spectacular view of the busy city lighted brightly by the Christmas lights. But he was a better view, looking so perfect under the silvery moonlight, like an angel in this harsh world. Every minute spend with him is a blessing that takes away all of my sadness, bringing me nothing but happiness. In the cold black sky, the stars blinked innocently bringing in some cheeriness. The faraway city casted a blurry reflection onto the still river water and I am here to witness this perfection with an angel. Every now and then, the wind blew against us like harsh kisses, forcing him to hold me closer. As if it took the hint, the moon retreated completely behind the clouds, dimming the surrounding as the angel leaned in and stole a kiss......... TO: FUTURE ME.
Posted Saturday, 8 November 2014 // 10:25 pm
 I should be writing my resume, I should be doing a ton of important things right now and not here writing away like I'm a carefree lady with plenty of time. But it's okay right? I just find the need to write. I feel the need to write this because how often do we wonder about our futures? I do it all the time, almost everyday. Thinking about my future stresses me and I work awfully well under stress. I did give a thorough thought about my future, I therefore have plans and goals. At least I know I'm going somewhere and not just wandering around aimlessly in life till I lay 6 feet below Earth. I want the future me to look back at now and think, "Hey gurl, I'm proud of you. Because of you then, I get what I have now. Thank you. " Dear Future 30 y/o Joyce, I hope you still have that glowing smile plastered on your face everyday and is living everyday to its fullest. Carpe diem. I guess you're still drinking chamomile tea and eating food that everybody hates. But it's okay, they are still food anyway. I'm very certain you're still in love with potatoes and pizzas and your favourite cuisine is still Thai. Things never change, am I right? Oh my! I pray that you find someone that loves you more than you love yourself. Someone that hugs you tightly even when the thunder made you jumped and texts you at 3 in the morning just to say "I love you" cause he knows you're a light sleeper, you'll wake up and tell him you love him too. Tell him you love him too then scold him for waking you up. I hope he's the one that knows you get so cold so easily your hands will feel like ice but will still hold it no matter what. I hope he understands why you play your music so loud on rainy days and will not yell at you for blasting music. Since you never had much luck with love, I'll pray for you everyday though I doubt it'll work since I'm an atheist that pretty much believe in nothing except myself, there's no one greater to pray to. I apologise if you find no one, buy a studio apartment and 100 cats is cool too. Girl, you're definitely not fat but please still go jog once a month and get some sun kissed glow. I want you to continue to drink tea and read in bed during lazy days and live by the quote "what's meant to be will always find a way." I'm pretty sure you'll still be a cat person if not 10 dogs instead of 100 cats is cool too. Sighs, I really really wish you learn that not everyone is going to be good to you and they all will leave one day. Naive is the adjective you should no longer possess. Your love for plants will grow wild since you have always love the nature. Tell me if I'm right. (grins.) Oh! Remember to go trekking! If your passion for volunteering grows any further I hope you're doing something bigger to make more people smile. You have always been quite a stubborn girl but I'm not too sure if I want you to change since there's pros and cons in it. Just stop trying to do the compete opposite to prove people wrong, we all know you would do it. Something you must continue doing no matter what is, listening to acoustics and covers. They are so damnnnnnn good they need people like you to appreciate it. I know you're afraid of the lightnings and thunders but please continue to love the rain, cold weather has always been your favourite. Do you still jump like a little girl when you're at the beach or when you get your classic $1 ice cream from the ice cream man? You're such a little girl, easily pleased and always have the energy of a little girl. So active. It almost slipped my mind! So, did you attend university in the end? Local? Or somewhere far? I'm dying to know but that will probably take me at least 10 years to know. However, university or not, I sincerely hope you're happy. Your happiness depends on nothing/no one but yourself. I know you can be penniless but still happy, I could not fathom why but you just can. Live up to your name, be happy. I hope your business is doing well and your only worry should only be the ones you love to help but could not reach them. Do overseas community service, you have always wanted it. I hope you still hate pineapples and mushroom that taste like mushroom cause they seriously taste like crap. I promise you I have done my best for the past 30 years. Please don't hate me. Yours sincerely, Only 18 EVENTUALLY.
Posted Tuesday, 4 November 2014 // 8:02 am
 WHO TO BLAME.
Posted Saturday, 1 November 2014 // 12:02 pm
 I have an hour before I have to go get ready for today's tuition. So, this will be a rather short post. " When a leaf falls, whose fault is it? The tree that let it go? The wind that blew it away? Or the leaf that got tired of hanging on? " Let's not look at it from the science point of view, because we all know it's nature and it's then nobody's fault. But it look at it from the life point of view, who's fault is it? It may be everybody's....... If I translate it into a daily problem, you will understand why. " When a relationship breaks, whose fault is it? The one that let go? The third person who broke them up? Or the other one that gave up? " How I see it may not be how you see it but I'll explain my view. It's everyone's fault. It takes two hands to clap, one is trying so hard to coordinate to clap but the other one just doesn't give a damn, it's never gonna work out. On Earth, there are many arseholes breathing around us, we just need to find out who are those arseholes. These people just like to ruin things, why? I wonder why too. While two is trying to make a clap, people like them will come and try to split them up. When the pair breaks, everyone is to be blame. If the one that doesn't give a damn tries hard enough, the clap might work out. If the one that hang on a little more, maybe the clap might work out. If the arshole doesn't interfere, maybe the pair will work out. I guess it's not just about relationship between people, it applies generally in life. If you're the one that doesn't give a damn, please, for god's sake, if you intend to do something, give your best, put your heart into it and do it! If you're the one that gave up, have some faith and hold on a little longer. Well, if you're the arsehole, damn you, leave others alone, one day, karma will kick you hard in the arse. We all have been in such situations before and I'm usually the one that gave up. Why? Because I'm not that strong and I can't hang on and keep trying so hard when I know it's not gonna work out when the other half just doesn't care. Not that I didn't try, I did. But what's meant to be, will be. If it's not meant to be, no matter how long I hold on to it and no matter how hard I try, it will never work out. So, I give up. I always stick around just in case it might work out but most of the time, it just doesn't. I guess this is the main reason why I don't have many I see as a friend. A friendship needs two people to work together to get it going, if you're always never around for me then what is a friend for? There's a reason why there's such terms as schoolmate, classmate and colleagues. You know them but they are not your friend, people like me, we draw these lines very clearly. I say it applies generally in life because it works the same way for the things you want and we all want something in life. We always want something. " When you didn't get the thing you want, whose fault is it? The thing that didn't come to you? The third factor that stopped you? Or you the one gave up trying to get it? " I always believe in fighting for what you want and what you think you deserve. (I don't mean fight physically.) You will fight against all odds and overcome all obstacles if you really want it. If you gave up halfway, it only means you didn't want it bad enough. Life is fair, it's human beings that made it unfair. Some people just gotta work harder than others because others just don't want you have the easy way out. Life unfold a lot of misunderstandings everyday and every moment. It's up to us to solve it, leave it or live with it. If you really want it, you'll solve it. If you don't care that much, you'll leave it. If you think like me (What's meant to be, will be.) , you'll live with it. Keeping fight for what you want and live your dreams. |
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