What is happiness?

happiness

ˈhapɪnɪs/

noun

noun: happiness; plural noun: happinesses
 1. the state of being happy.

Do we all deserve to be happy? I think we all do. Even sinners deserve happiness too. We’re all born to be great people but some chose the wrong path….. The path they took, they might be influenced and was too young, too dumb to realize what’s wrong and what’s right. Deep down everyone’s core, there’s a bit of kindness in us. And this is why I think we all deserve happiness. If we are willing go a little mile more to care for someone and make others happy, we deserve to be treated the same way, don’t we?

I know people always say I’m too naive but if sinners don’t deserve happiness, then who do? We’re all sinners at a certain point of our life.  I lied, I stole, I cheated, I cursed, I swore, I hurt and I kill. Every ant we killed, that’s a life taken away from earth.  Are we sinner? Yes, we are. But for every kind act we do, will it make up for our sins? I think it will.

We all deserve happiness, but why are we not happy? I am not happy. Maybe because I was still hurt from that past relationship, moving on is not easy. Sometimes I wonder, is it I cannot or I don’t want to? Guess most of the time, I don’t want to. I am smart enough to know what’s right, what’s wrong, what’s good for me and what’s not. I guess we were never taught how to control our hearts. Pisces are such idiots. Reckless fools. We say without thinking, but really. Only those how speak without thinking say the truth. We do it anyway knowing we shouldn't.

Well, we’re young. Make mistake, regret it, don’t learn, and make the same mistake again. That’s why we’re never really happy. We make ourselves sad. If we all do what’s right the world will be filled with happiness. But how can we do what’s good for us if we have feelings that say we need to do what we want to do?

Maybe to be happy, you need to be heartless sometimes. If you know your partner is not right for you, end it. Your heart may say no, but months later, when you get over it, you’ll be happier. Because what made you sad was your partner….. We don’t need others to make us happy.

The first rule to be happy is to be happy about you. We all have flaws and strengths. Forget the flaws, look at your strengths and love yourself because of the strengths you have that others don’t. When you love yourself, you will naturally be happy.

Loving yourself is not enough. Appreciate every little thing! A 10cents can go a long way. Look at that little flower that forced its way out from the crack of the pavement. See how beautiful it is. Admire the sun ray, feel the warmth. Observe the world, see what’s around you; you’ll see what a beautiful place earth is. I know we are bound to see how ugly some things are, but the key is to focus on the positive.

Let go. Humans have feelings, too much feeling. We cling onto memories and suffer. This is one of the hardest steps but it is the most effective step. Letting go will help you to be happier. Letting go of the sad memories or hatred will help you become better. Less negativity in your mind, more room for happiness. When you worry about something, it didn't happen, you wasted your time. If it happened, you wasted your time too. So what’s the point? Wouldn't letting go be easier? An eye for an eye and the whole world goes blind. Make peace with your past, you’ll become someone better.

Last step will be expecting less. Always give more and expect nothing in return. Because expectations will lead to disappointments. Do good deed without having the return in mind. You know your friend likes mint; buy some mint when you happen to see it. I’m not saying you must always buy something for your friends, once in a while is enough. Your friend loves lava cake, you know a place that sells real great lava cake, go get one for him/her. But don’t expect anything in return. Giving is one of the greatest happiness. Seeing happiness knowing it’s because of you is happiness.

You can’t expect happiness to appear overnight but give it time. Give humans a little time to change. I know people don’t really change but that doesn't mean we won’t. Always improve, keep moving forward. No matter how small an improvement is, it’s always better than still at the same spot. Improve morally.

Always be nice.

Love all, trust a few and do wrong to none – Shakespeare.